Averting your eyes or avoiding eye contact tells people that you want to talk to them and will make people avoid you instead.
Want to let women know it’s OK to come talk to you?
If you want women to be approaching you, you have to pay attention to your style, your grooming and your smell.
A good haircut, keeping any facial hair neatly trimmed and clean, stylish clothes that more approachable than the sloppy-looking guy in the baggy sweatshirt with the stains and the jeans that reek of cigarette smoke with bed-head and three days’ worth of stubble. Because it takes advantage of what’s known as the Halo Effect, a cognitive bias that causes our overall impression of someone to affect how we think about them. This doesn’t mean that you need to be rocking a three-piece suit at all hours, but if you’re going out of the house, you want to make sure to take the time to look sharp.
As I’ve said before: there’s being good looking, and then there’s being attractive.
One is about your physical looks and the other is about your overall presentation.
But, despite social progress and the ardent wishes of many, many men, the accepted cultural narrative places the onus on men to make the first move.
not something that’s going to make them appealing to others.
You want your body language to be open and inviting, with your shoulders back (but not far back; you’re enjoying yourself, not standing at attention), and arms open.
Not only is this a more friendly and accommodating pose, but it makes you look more confident as well.
As you exhale, let the tension drain out of your limbs and shoulders. Imagine an invisible thread attached to the crown of your skull.
Let that thread pull you upward to your full height while your arms dangle loosely at your sides.